Comments on: how to deal with heartbreak http://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak a life less bullshit Wed, 16 May 2012 22:46:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: Traceyhttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27530 Tracey Thu, 10 May 2012 10:16:38 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27530 I am currently still on day 2....still crying almost all of the day and most of the night living on half a packet of wotsits and chewing gum to get me through. I found this link yesterday and it was the only thing that put a smile on my face so this morning after the usual heartbroken text message that I really shouldnt have sent him...then got no reply...I put the internet on to read this again...and again it cheered me up...Thank you Nicole you have made my day... hope everyones pain heals quickly...hope I stop sending inannely stupid text messages and crying all the time very soon...Thanks again from me all the way over in the UK xxx I am currently still on day 2….still crying almost all of the day and most of the night living on half a packet of wotsits and chewing gum to get me through. I found this link yesterday and it was the only thing that put a smile on my face so this morning after the usual heartbroken text message that I really shouldnt have sent him…then got no reply…I put the internet on to read this again…and again it cheered me up…Thank you Nicole you have made my day… hope everyones pain heals quickly…hope I stop sending inannely stupid text messages and crying all the time very soon…Thanks again from me all the way over in the UK xxx

]]> By: Samanthahttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27529 Samantha Thu, 10 May 2012 09:09:08 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27529 Wow Nicole, You and I are going through the same thing except it's a girl who ripped my heart out. 3 years, an engagement ring... She put it on my finger, and now I can't even look at it. I haven't eaten or slept in days. Tonight we spoke. I asked her if she was coming back and if she still loved me. "I don't know." something like, "are you coming back?" "No, Sam. Not right now." Let the tears and text-message-terrorism fly. I hope I can get through this. The aching chest, the headaches, the hyperventilation. This has been going on for two weeks. I'm furious and hurt. I wish I hated her. Wow Nicole,

You and I are going through the same thing except it’s a girl who ripped my heart out. 3 years, an engagement ring… She put it on my finger, and now I can’t even look at it. I haven’t eaten or slept in days. Tonight we spoke.

I asked her if she was coming back and if she still loved me. “I don’t know.”

something like, “are you coming back?”

“No, Sam. Not right now.”

Let the tears and text-message-terrorism fly. I hope I can get through this. The aching chest, the headaches, the hyperventilation.

This has been going on for two weeks.

I’m furious and hurt.

I wish I hated her.

]]> By: Lonerhttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27527 Loner Thu, 10 May 2012 04:46:55 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27527 Because when you move on, you realize this was all part of Plan A. You had to experience the pain to grow stronger, to experience the sweet taste of love and the bitter taste it left. It will make you a stronger person and when you find your special someone you'll thank the heavens it didn't work out with what you think as "Plan A." It will work out in the end and not because you moved to Plan B, but because you needed this to make Plan A work. Because when you move on, you realize this was all part of Plan A. You had to experience the pain to grow stronger, to experience the sweet taste of love and the bitter taste it left. It will make you a stronger person and when you find your special someone you’ll thank the heavens it didn’t work out with what you think as “Plan A.” It will work out in the end and not because you moved to Plan B, but because you needed this to make Plan A work.

]]> By: Nicolehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27490 Nicole Mon, 07 May 2012 07:12:20 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27490 Wow. The ending was sort of a slap in the face, because I've been searching for a different answer than just "time". Thank you though, it's something I need to hear I guess. It's weird, I thought my situation was different... But reading these comments, I guess not. Still doing the friends with benefits thing 3 months later. Still in love with him and he says that he thinks he loves me still, but isn't in love and doesn't want a relationship right now with anyone. He still really wants to be friends because we were friends before it happened, yet he hardly texts. Only if a nag him.... And we don't ever talk on the phone anymore. We hang out for an evening every couple weeks and I just get flooded with happiness... Then spend the rest of my days in depression. It hurts so much but should I just break it off for good? Wow. The ending was sort of a slap in the face, because I’ve been searching for a different answer than just “time”. Thank you though, it’s something I need to hear I guess. It’s weird, I thought my situation was different… But reading these comments, I guess not. Still doing the friends with benefits thing 3 months later. Still in love with him and he says that he thinks he loves me still, but isn’t in love and doesn’t want a relationship right now with anyone. He still really wants to be friends because we were friends before it happened, yet he hardly texts. Only if a nag him…. And we don’t ever talk on the phone anymore. We hang out for an evening every couple weeks and I just get flooded with happiness… Then spend the rest of my days in depression. It hurts so much but should I just break it off for good?

]]> By: gunnerhttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27333 gunner Fri, 27 Apr 2012 02:46:21 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27333 i read all these blogs and put myself in a girls shoes and you know what i have learned as a man that hearts arent ment to be broken yet all my life thats all i have ever felt until i met the ONE. Shes always been there for me thru thick and thin and yet i have been treated like crap all my life by females shes been my angel thats probably why i have been such a ass to her i just wish she knew how much she means to me i love her son as if was my own, i even want to change his last name to mine and yet i still feel like crap cuz i cant conect with her on her level i dont know how. I wish i could move with her and my son far away and start fresh but would that fix anything at all if she cant forget the past. wheres there a time machine when you need it? i read all these blogs and put myself in a girls shoes and you know what i have learned as a man that hearts arent ment to be broken yet all my life thats all i have ever felt until i met the ONE. Shes always been there for me thru thick and thin and yet i have been treated like crap all my life by females shes been my angel thats probably why i have been such a ass to her i just wish she knew how much she means to me i love her son as if was my own, i even want to change his last name to mine and yet i still feel like crap cuz i cant conect with her on her level i dont know how. I wish i could move with her and my son far away and start fresh but would that fix anything at all if she cant forget the past. wheres there a time machine when you need it?

]]> By: *name redacted*http://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27217 *name redacted* Wed, 25 Apr 2012 09:08:12 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27217 Me too. I cry only in private, and don't tell my mom or pretty much anyone. But the hooking up with inappropriate men? *sigh* Wish I could erase that part. Me too. I cry only in private, and don’t tell my mom or pretty much anyone. But the hooking up with inappropriate men? *sigh* Wish I could erase that part.

]]> By: Carolinehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-27054 Caroline Sun, 08 Apr 2012 01:38:13 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-27054 I needed to see this so much, words can't even express. I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half, my first real relationship that wasn't long distance. We started dating when we were freshmen in college, and at this point I feel like I lost so much of me into him and regretted who I had become. I wanted to break up with him, I was sure of it, and then he was the one that broached the subject. We cried together, we laughed together, and we're going to try to be friends, but in the end I know things can never be the same. And they shouldn't be. But for being so sure it was what I wanted, I feel like my heart has been crushed into a million pieces. It couldn't have been more mutual, and I know he's hurting too, but right now all I can do is cry my eyes out and hope my roommate doesn't walk into my room because I just want to be alone. I have hope that things will get better, but right now things are just so overwhelming that I don't know what to do. I realize now I've never been heartbroken and I don't know how I'll ever put myself willingly into the situation again. Thank you for being bold enough to describe the dirty of a breakup and in doing so make me feel a little less out of control. I needed to see this so much, words can’t even express. I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half, my first real relationship that wasn’t long distance. We started dating when we were freshmen in college, and at this point I feel like I lost so much of me into him and regretted who I had become. I wanted to break up with him, I was sure of it, and then he was the one that broached the subject. We cried together, we laughed together, and we’re going to try to be friends, but in the end I know things can never be the same. And they shouldn’t be.

But for being so sure it was what I wanted, I feel like my heart has been crushed into a million pieces. It couldn’t have been more mutual, and I know he’s hurting too, but right now all I can do is cry my eyes out and hope my roommate doesn’t walk into my room because I just want to be alone. I have hope that things will get better, but right now things are just so overwhelming that I don’t know what to do. I realize now I’ve never been heartbroken and I don’t know how I’ll ever put myself willingly into the situation again.

Thank you for being bold enough to describe the dirty of a breakup and in doing so make me feel a little less out of control.

]]> By: Goitseonehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-26978 Goitseone Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:36:11 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-26978 hello.........i have been dating this boyfriend of mine about 7 months now nd he stresses me a lot i have lost my weight nd my main problem is that i really love him so much with all my heart..bt i was planning to dump him but i cant imagine the world without him,,,,plis help wat can i do.. hello………i have been dating this boyfriend of mine about 7 months now nd he stresses me a lot i have lost my weight nd my main problem is that i really love him so much with all my heart..bt i was planning to dump him but i cant imagine the world without him,,,,plis help wat can i do..

]]> By: Amandahttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-26878 Amanda Mon, 05 Mar 2012 17:44:00 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-26878 Sigh, since my break up almost 3 years ago I have come back to this thread several times for comfort. He was my first love and meant the world to me, more than the world, more than i could ever explain. The time i spent with him though it wasn't as long as some of the others here was breathtaking, the best times of my life so far, and i wouldn't give a minute of it up for anything. It made life feel like it had never felt before, sort of like really breathing or opening my eyes for the first time. It was long distance for a time and eventually ended because of the military. I was completely devastated, in my mind there was nobody else, no other guys in the world, nobody who could ever compare. We try to remain friends now but it makes moving on soso hard. Despite all these things after all this time that's passed life is normal again, i laugh, smile, date and sleep like a baby at night. You may not forget your ex or first love but life goes on and you will, even with them in your life for some. I never thought i would be the one saying this, but when i was balling my eyes out looking for any type of comfort after the break the only thing that made me think that i could possibly live life again was the experiences of others who had gone through it and came out just fine on the other side. So take your time, cry, vent it's natural and probably at this point healthy. Just remember that you will eventually feel better and be happy, i promise. Sigh, since my break up almost 3 years ago I have come back to this thread several times for comfort. He was my first love and meant the world to me, more than the world, more than i could ever explain. The time i spent with him though it wasn’t as long as some of the others here was breathtaking, the best times of my life so far, and i wouldn’t give a minute of it up for anything. It made life feel like it had never felt before, sort of like really breathing or opening my eyes for the first time. It was long distance for a time and eventually ended because of the military. I was completely devastated, in my mind there was nobody else, no other guys in the world, nobody who could ever compare. We try to remain friends now but it makes moving on soso hard. Despite all these things after all this time that’s passed life is normal again, i laugh, smile, date and sleep like a baby at night. You may not forget your ex or first love but life goes on and you will, even with them in your life for some. I never thought i would be the one saying this, but when i was balling my eyes out looking for any type of comfort after the break the only thing that made me think that i could possibly live life again was the experiences of others who had gone through it and came out just fine on the other side. So take your time, cry, vent it’s natural and probably at this point healthy. Just remember that you will eventually feel better and be happy, i promise.

]]> By: Ninaj19http://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-26848 Ninaj19 Thu, 01 Mar 2012 21:46:32 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-26848 No you are not going nuts, pretty much everything you are feeling at the momen, i am feeling exactly the same, my fiance just told me two days ago that he doesnt love me anymore. We have been together almost 8 years, we have a home togther and a dog, amounst other things. I think i am still in utter shock to be honest, i realise that our relationship has had its problems and there were things that needed to be worked on but i never expected this to happen. i didnt actually think he would ever have had enough and fall out of love with me. ive pretty much cried none stop, at the moment i just feel numb, i dont know what to do, or think, or feel. I dont know how to be normal, its just like you describe my body is doing the normal things but my mind is somewhere else. everything seems pointless, if i dont have him i dont have anything, ive built my whole life around him and now im left with nothing, i feel so lost and alone. there are people for me to turn to but i dont feel they fully understand what this is like for me, how can they? i am so scared of the future now, i had it all mapped out infront of me, marraige, kids etc and now its all been taken away from me so suddenly and i feel like he is just a total stranger who i dont no. I want to just shake him up and say ' hello are you still in there somewhere!??' because he is being so strong and cold and heartless about it, he says he thinks that is for the best but it doesnt make me feel any better is anything its worse, i need to know that he at least cares about what he is doing to me, to us. i feel for you right now, no one can understand this unless they have gone through it No you are not going nuts, pretty much everything you are feeling at the momen, i am feeling exactly the same, my fiance just told me two days ago that he doesnt love me anymore. We have been together almost 8 years, we have a home togther and a dog, amounst other things.
I think i am still in utter shock to be honest, i realise that our relationship has had its problems and there were things that needed to be worked on but i never expected this to happen.
i didnt actually think he would ever have had enough and fall out of love with me. ive pretty much cried none stop, at the moment i just feel numb, i dont know what to do, or think, or feel. I dont know how to be normal, its just like you describe my body is doing the normal things but my mind is somewhere else. everything seems pointless, if i dont have him i dont have anything, ive built my whole life around him and now im left with nothing, i feel so lost and alone. there are people for me to turn to but i dont feel they fully understand what this is like for me, how can they?
i am so scared of the future now, i had it all mapped out infront of me, marraige, kids etc and now its all been taken away from me so suddenly and i feel like he is just a total stranger who i dont no. I want to just shake him up and say ‘ hello are you still in there somewhere!??’ because he is being so strong and cold and heartless about it, he says he thinks that is for the best but it doesnt make me feel any better is anything its worse, i need to know that he at least cares about what he is doing to me, to us.
i feel for you right now, no one can understand this unless they have gone through it

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