Comments on: how to deal with heartbreak http://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak a life less bullshit Fri, 03 Feb 2012 20:09:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: Steve Ripphttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-26146 Steve Ripp Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:45:44 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-26146 Totally crushed. I'm 57 she was the one I always wanted. Don't know that she was the type u described but thought u should know. I read this book called "the Scoieopath Next Door". Statitical fact: 5% of people have no consience. They don't have the gene. It's a pretty new one. Hey, 2,000 yrs. ago we were throwing people to the lions for sport. I think i'll look up Narcissism. Think you might b interested in looking up Sociopaths, or reading that book, it was fasinating. Steve Totally crushed. I’m 57 she was the one I always wanted. Don’t know that she was the type u described but thought u should know. I read this book called “the Scoieopath Next Door”.
Statitical fact: 5% of people have no consience. They don’t have the gene. It’s a pretty new one. Hey, 2,000 yrs. ago we were throwing people to the lions for sport. I think i’ll look up Narcissism.
Think you might b interested in looking up Sociopaths, or reading that book, it was fasinating.

Steve

]]> By: Charles Robertshttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25896 Charles Roberts Fri, 20 Jan 2012 07:06:24 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25896 It's been three weeks and I breakdown every day still. I thought she was the love of my life and she told me I was her soulmate, and that she could never hurt me. The first 2.5 months were the best I've ever, truly incredible, then she changed abruptly for no apparent reason. In hindsight there were plenty of clues, I just ignored them because I wanted to believe the fantasy she presented. She was cruel in the end and two days after she broke it off she started trying to reengage, first she wanted to be "friends" but wouldn't define what that meant, when I declined she said she wanted me back...it was all a game. I've left out the details but it turns out that this was my first romantic encounter with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I'll always love who I thought she was, but I know if I went back it might very well have killed me. I'm serious, this was unlike anything I've ever experienced, almost supernatural, I started having anxiety attacks, my physical health declined, super weird. If you've had an amazing romance with what you thought was an incredible person, only to be lied to, cheated on, and played with, look up the disorder, it will give you answers where there don't seem to be any. There are actually people out there who have no conscience, no capacity for love, and who derive pleasure from breaking hearts. Thanks for the post, I'll start making stars tomorrow. Good luck all, may these experiences bring us closer to the real love of life. It’s been three weeks and I breakdown every day still. I thought she was the love of my life and she told me I was her soulmate, and that she could never hurt me. The first 2.5 months were the best I’ve ever, truly incredible, then she changed abruptly for no apparent reason. In hindsight there were plenty of clues, I just ignored them because I wanted to believe the fantasy she presented. She was cruel in the end and two days after she broke it off she started trying to reengage, first she wanted to be “friends” but wouldn’t define what that meant, when I declined she said she wanted me back…it was all a game. I’ve left out the details but it turns out that this was my first romantic encounter with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I’ll always love who I thought she was, but I know if I went back it might very well have killed me. I’m serious, this was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced, almost supernatural, I started having anxiety attacks, my physical health declined, super weird. If you’ve had an amazing romance with what you thought was an incredible person, only to be lied to, cheated on, and played with, look up the disorder, it will give you answers where there don’t seem to be any. There are actually people out there who have no conscience, no capacity for love, and who derive pleasure from breaking hearts.

Thanks for the post, I’ll start making stars tomorrow.

Good luck all, may these experiences bring us closer to the real love of life.

]]> By: FAYUMhttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25893 FAYUM Thu, 19 Jan 2012 18:49:42 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25893 i had been with her for a year. everytime i remembr how much i love her, i feel my insides screaming. Alice. I lost her. thats the last time i prayed! lol i had been with her for a year. everytime i remembr how much i love her, i feel my insides screaming. Alice. I lost her. thats the last time i prayed! lol

]]> By: Joehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25307 Joe Tue, 03 Jan 2012 14:58:51 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25307 As I write this I'm waiting outside my wife's motel room. It's been about 4 hours now and she knows I'm out here. I've been through 1 other heart wrenching breakup in my life And told myself I'd never give my heart to another. I made it through nine years of unattached superficial relationships, and I prided myself on being honest with females so I wouldn't put anyone through the pain I felt. Then I met Alicia. She said all the right things and worked her way into my heart. She had been married before but her husband, her high school sweetheart was killed about 6 years ago. I went against my better judgement and opened my heart to her because it seemed she was only looking for someone to love her. She awakened feelings inside me I hadn't felt since I was 19. I never knew my heart was empty till it was filled and now "the bachelor life" isn't enough for me. I've been alone for most of my adult life but I've never felt lonely until now. So now I sit waiting on her to show her face so I can let her know that she can't lie her way out of this one. Thank you for the post it distracted me from the pain for a moment at least. As I write this I’m waiting outside my wife’s motel room. It’s been about 4 hours now and she knows I’m out here. I’ve been through 1 other heart wrenching breakup in my life And told myself I’d never give my heart to another. I made it through nine years of unattached superficial relationships, and I prided myself on being honest with females so I wouldn’t put anyone through the pain I felt. Then I met Alicia. She said all the right things and worked her way into my heart. She had been married before but her husband, her high school sweetheart was killed about 6 years ago. I went against my better judgement and opened my heart to her because it seemed she was only looking for someone to love her. She awakened feelings inside me I hadn’t felt since I was 19. I never knew my heart was empty till it was filled and now “the bachelor life” isn’t enough for me. I’ve been alone for most of my adult life but I’ve never felt lonely until now. So now I sit waiting on her to show her face so I can let her know that she can’t lie her way out of this one.
Thank you for the post it distracted me from the pain for a moment at least.

]]> By: Aliciahttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25265 Alicia Sat, 31 Dec 2011 08:13:30 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25265 Same thing.. Same thing..

]]> By: Bridgethttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25254 Bridget Fri, 30 Dec 2011 02:16:08 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25254 I feel you. Christmas was terrible. He is very depressed and wants to be alone due to extreme family circumstances and generally disliking himself. He says he doesn't want to break up but that it just feels wrong, he doesn't know what else to do. He feels so guilty and doesn't understand why i would want him. He's the only man I've ever loved. We immediately had a deep and intense connection and can talk and talk like there's no tomorrow. We lived together for almost a year after dating for 6 months. On our moving day he was calling me "baby". We sat on the floor and sobbed together; he doesn't want this, either. But doesn't know what else to do. I'm just lost without him. I want to stick by him during this difficult time. I feel you. Christmas was terrible.
He is very depressed and wants to be alone due to extreme family circumstances and generally disliking himself. He says he doesn’t want to break up but that it just feels wrong, he doesn’t know what else to do. He feels so guilty and doesn’t understand why i would want him.
He’s the only man I’ve ever loved. We immediately had a deep and intense connection and can talk and talk like there’s no tomorrow.
We lived together for almost a year after dating for 6 months.
On our moving day he was calling me “baby”. We sat on the floor and sobbed together; he doesn’t want this, either. But doesn’t know what else to do.

I’m just lost without him. I want to stick by him during this difficult time.

]]> By: Jamiehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25201 Jamie Mon, 26 Dec 2011 02:19:42 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25201 Just got dumped last night. Christmas Eve. We had only dated for six months, but i'm 20, so 6 months is a very long time. I had had another boyfriend before that for 2 years whom i lost my virginity to and loved very deeply, but i broke up with him because he started doing drugs and lying all the time. It hurt like hell, but then i met this last guy and he was an amazing distraction, a really great guy that was way better looking than my previous bf, and treated me amazingly. i thought he was just a rebound at first but it turned into something more. We were so close. although i wasn't a virgin i felt that i was with him, that he was my first. it was so much more special with him. He broke up with me last night because he says he's tired of doing nothing with his life and wants more, and doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. He doesn't want the stress. but we were doing so well before that so it caught me really off guard. I begged him back for hours and cried my eyes out and did everything pathetic you could think of but he wouldn't take me back. So i stopped calling and texting him. it hasn't even been a full day yet but im so proud of myself for not texting him for 12 hours. i want those 10 stars. The pain is unfathomable unless you've been through the same thing. Reading all of your posts makes me feel so much better because i know most of you truly know what i'm going through. I feel so claustrophobic, just being in my room and in this town everything reminds me of him, i am so completely devastated, i haven't ate or drank anything, i've made myself physically sick. It helps to know that it gets better with time but it's not comforting to hear people talk about how years later they are still scarred from the pain. I never want to feel this way again. I am praying that all of you going through a heartbreak won't feel alone or inadequate. We are all connected, just remember that. Just got dumped last night. Christmas Eve. We had only dated for six months, but i’m 20, so 6 months is a very long time. I had had another boyfriend before that for 2 years whom i lost my virginity to and loved very deeply, but i broke up with him because he started doing drugs and lying all the time. It hurt like hell, but then i met this last guy and he was an amazing distraction, a really great guy that was way better looking than my previous bf, and treated me amazingly. i thought he was just a rebound at first but it turned into something more. We were so close. although i wasn’t a virgin i felt that i was with him, that he was my first. it was so much more special with him. He broke up with me last night because he says he’s tired of doing nothing with his life and wants more, and doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. He doesn’t want the stress. but we were doing so well before that so it caught me really off guard.
I begged him back for hours and cried my eyes out and did everything pathetic you could think of but he wouldn’t take me back. So i stopped calling and texting him. it hasn’t even been a full day yet but im so proud of myself for not texting him for 12 hours. i want those 10 stars.

The pain is unfathomable unless you’ve been through the same thing. Reading all of your posts makes me feel so much better because i know most of you truly know what i’m going through. I feel so claustrophobic, just being in my room and in this town everything reminds me of him, i am so completely devastated, i haven’t ate or drank anything, i’ve made myself physically sick. It helps to know that it gets better with time but it’s not comforting to hear people talk about how years later they are still scarred from the pain. I never want to feel this way again. I am praying that all of you going through a heartbreak won’t feel alone or inadequate. We are all connected, just remember that.

]]> By: Jamiehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25200 Jamie Mon, 26 Dec 2011 02:01:30 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25200 Anna: EXACTLY how i feel. I think this post relates to me more than any other post here. I would give anything to have him miss me, even if he wouldn't get back with me. Just to know I mattered to him. Anna: EXACTLY how i feel. I think this post relates to me more than any other post here. I would give anything to have him miss me, even if he wouldn’t get back with me. Just to know I mattered to him.

]]> By: Jamiehttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25199 Jamie Mon, 26 Dec 2011 01:37:11 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25199 I really liked the way you put this. It's sort of what i'm going through right now. I really liked the way you put this. It’s sort of what i’m going through right now.

]]> By: MMMhttp://nicoleisbetter.com/how-to-deal-with-heartbreak#comment-25040 MMM Tue, 13 Dec 2011 08:21:52 +0000 http://nicoleisbetter.com/?p=597#comment-25040 I a guy have just been dumped, she was my first girlfriend(P.S I'm 19).. Iv had crushes before but that died within 5 days. What I felt for this girl was something else.. She had 2 ex boyfriends.. And would constantly talk to one of them even more then she would talk to me.. That broke my heart.. Then I talked to her about it and she said she won't talk to him so I forgave her.(even though it would kill me everyday) then 3 weeks ago to this day she ended the relationship saying that she had a big conscience and that it felt good when your mom trusted you.. I had two things to say to that 1) if she had a big conscience did she think it would literally DESTROY my heart and mind? And 2) the sad thing is she told the same thing to her one of her exs when she broke up with him... (she told me that in the beginning of our relationship) does she really expect me to believe her? I can't get over this girl even though I know for a fact that I deserve better, not because of an immaturity of her breaking up with me, but because she was into drugs/ had boyfriends, and had a horrid personality compared to mine. I hope you read this my now ex.. I still have feelings for you unfortunately but I will NEVER forgive you for breaking my heart not once but two times in this relationship.. If you cared so much about your moms trust you shouldn't have talked to me when I was willing to wait for you for two years without heartbreak.. P.S I know the cause of our relationship was your younger sister.. She may think she is cunning but I knew for over a month and a half what she was going to do, slowly with poison she told you that we wernt going to work.. I don't know if she was jealous/ selfish but now your going to go down a path that I was willing to save you from.. And your sister made you lose a type of guy you never deserved.. Ask your older sister. P.S I know alot of guys hit on you in highschool, which gave you a HUGE confidence boost, but did you know I have 8 girls after me in college? And I ignored them for you.. Never told you about them.. And thanks for crushing my heart. I a guy have just been dumped, she was my first girlfriend(P.S I’m 19).. Iv had crushes before but that died within 5 days. What I felt for this girl was something else.. She had 2 ex boyfriends.. And would constantly talk to one of them even more then she would talk to me.. That broke my heart.. Then I talked to her about it and she said she won’t talk to him so I forgave her.(even though it would kill me everyday) then 3 weeks ago to this day she ended the relationship saying that she had a big conscience and that it felt good when your mom trusted you.. I had two things to say to that 1) if she had a big conscience did she think it would literally DESTROY my heart and mind? And 2) the sad thing is she told the same thing to her one of her exs when she broke up with him… (she told me that in the beginning of our relationship) does she really expect me to believe her? I can’t get over this girl even though I know for a fact that I deserve better, not because of an immaturity of her breaking up with me, but because she was into drugs/ had boyfriends, and had a horrid personality compared to mine. I hope you read this my now ex.. I still have feelings for you unfortunately but I will NEVER forgive you for breaking my heart not once but two times in this relationship.. If you cared so much about your moms trust you shouldn’t have talked to me when I was willing to wait for you for two years without heartbreak.. P.S I know the cause of our relationship was your younger sister.. She may think she is cunning but I knew for over a month and a half what she was going to do, slowly with poison she told you that we wernt going to work.. I don’t know if she was jealous/ selfish but now your going to go down a path that I was willing to save you from.. And your sister made you lose a type of guy you never deserved.. Ask your older sister. P.S I know alot of guys hit on you in highschool, which gave you a HUGE confidence boost, but did you know I have 8 girls after me in college? And I ignored them for you.. Never told you about them.. And thanks for crushing my heart.

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